One of the most common factors among long-lasting marriages is the recognition that there have actually been multiple marriages between the same two people. That is the premise of Ada Calhoun’s 2017 article for the New York Times. Calhoun, along with an innumerable list of fellow authors, argues that change is the only constant in … Read more
Please realize that if you and your partner are happy with your sex life, that is all that counts. Don’t worry about the national average of sexual frequency. Don’t feel repressed if you don’t have a trapeze hanging in your bedroom. Don’t feel inferior to your best friend who says she has multiple orgasms every … Read more
Being perfect may not be all it is cracked up to be.So many of us spend all of our time trying to live up to the standards that we set for ourselves.Often times, those standards are so high that it takes far too much time and energy to live up to them and we lose … Read more
As I get older, I am increasingly aware of the many indignities of aging. As they say, it is not for the faint of heart. The loss of bodily prowess, the onset of various physical complications, the loss of physical attractiveness, the challenges of retirement, and most annoyingly our attitude toward getting old. The term … Read more
The sometimes huge gap between intention and impact is an unfortunate but very common miscommunication couples struggle with. In spite of one person’s positive intention to express his love and concern, the impact received may be quite negative. For example, a person may want to nurture his partner by encouraging her to exercise more regularly. … Read more
“When we all play it safe, we create a world of utmost insecurity.” (Dag Hammershold). Unless we are willing to risk the loss of a relationship, we cannot rightfully navigate within it. If we are preoccupied with playing it safe, afraid to rock the boat, we lose the very juice that lubricates genuine union. Although … Read more
Ever wonder if controlling people are as confident as the might have you think? The truth is that underneath their brittle armour of controlling behavior lies a huge reservoir of fear, likely stuffed from childhood. If we have parents who accept and empathize with our feelings and model constructive ways to express and resolve them, … Read more